Great Ways To Keep Your Relationship New And Exciting

Does it seem as if your partnership is turning into an old shoe? Always there and always comfortable though it is, how do you add a little polish? It's one thing to be strong and pass the test of time; it's quite another to keep things fresh and exciting. You need to perk up your relationship with a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner. Broadening your communication is the key. You'll both find that freshening up your relationship will have pleasant repercussions from the breakfast nook to the bedroom.

You have chosen to spend your life with your partner, shouldn't your lives be interesting, fun, even zesty? Fulfillment in a relationship is every couple's goal. Here are a couple of things you might give a whirl. None may be your cup of tea, but the inspiration is there. Use your own imagination. The basic premise is finding new ways to enjoy each others company.

Take a stroll. Don't be put off. There's a lot to be said for walking. Add your significant other as your walking companion and there's a whole lot more to be said for it. A walk on a beautiful sunny morning is a great way to jump start the body and the mind. Even a walk on a rainy morning can be fun and surprising. Or, if the stars are peeking through the curtains and the dishes are done, a walk can ease the tensions of the day and make yourselves ready for a good night's sleep. You might develop a pattern or you just might start to take walks whenever the mood strikes.

Walking with your significant other does so many things on so many different physical, mental, and even spiritual levels. You may walk briskly, punctuating the pace by tossing ideas at each other. You may walk slowly and speak in long and measured tones. There are no rules. The thing about walks is that they are something you two can share alone, without any hassles or planning, a time for reconnection. Yes, you built the house, raised the kids, took in family, entertained friends together. Now you need to put those things in perspective. You did those things because it pleased you both. Get away so you can stand back, see what goodness you have built, and figure out ways to improve on those things so that your time together continues to be fresh and exciting. And, your own porch light is always on.

Get out a deck of cards. Don't be put off. There's a lot to be said for card playing. Add your significant other and there's a whole lot more to be said for it. Like a walk, card playing can stimulate the brain. Playing cards is fun in itself. Also, playing cards is not so engrossing that it forestalls thoughtful conversation.

Why do you think there's a plethora of bridge, canasta and poker clubs? Because the games are fun and they make being with others that much more fun. It's a very social activity. The games bring an agility to your mind that could help you both see your mutual challenges in new ways. Or, sometimes watching how your partner plays his or her hand will give you some insights to how their brain operates. You will get to know each other so much better than just sitting together, alone with your separate books or newspapers.

Taking a walk, playing a few hands of cards, these seem so mundane, so unexciting. Well, basically that's true. But really, they're not. They allow you time alone, they allow some time for your physical, mental and spiritual selves to commune again on a very basic level. That is so important to a relationship.

There are other activities you can share with no one else having to be there. A stroll through a museum. Time at an arcade. (Even if you think you're too old for such nonsense.) Go to a fair and win a bear at a bean bag toss. Play a hand of cards. Take a walk. The simplest things are often the best things for young lovers of any age.

There's No Substitute For Appreciation In A Relationship

You have a partner that you planned to stay with your whole life. Are you doing your best to sustain that relationship? Would you honestly be able to say you've given it your all? Should the relationship take a bomb dive would you not feel any guilt or regret when you swear none of the dials on the control panels indicated an imminent wreck? Who wants to take the blame for the flaming wreckage of a relationship?

Who wants to be the blame for not building a strong and loving togetherness. Indeed, like Caesar and Cleopatra, some relationships are destined to fail. And this can be due to some mighty extenuating circumstances. But, just a basic level of understanding and respect can thwart the majority of partnership failures. Reflecting on the positive aspects of a relationship, and how these can be stimulated to grow into an even more exciting togetherness, is the basic need here.

To reflect on a relationship you have to figure out exactly what it is that you have. Don't start out with a list of what your relationship isn't. That's a set-up for sabotage. Find the good things. For instance, some diners can ruin a great dinner because mints weren't served afterward. So, appreciate what you have each particular blessing. Root them out, they may be hard to find, but they're there. And they may be hard to find because you don't really appreciate what you already have. And like a few parched seeds, these positive things in your life hold the promise of ever more blooms after every drought.

Health. Are your trips to the doctor few and far between? How about your significant other? Do you enjoy ease of mobility? Are you both comfortable on a nature trail or on the beach? Do you have to inject insulin everyday? Do you have to go to the hospital every so often to get your blood cleaned? If you or your partner don't have to deal with any of these issues, you are truly blessed.

Status. One day take a stroll to the nearest busy park. Take a seat and watch the people pass. You are going to see an expanse of human experience. You will see those who are better than yourselves in socioeconomic terms, and worse off than yourselves, too.

Watching this stream of humanity will give you things to think about as far as where you want to go and what you want to avoid. It will help you discern who needs help. Remember, you have no real equals, there are only those who are better off than you are and worse off than you are. You are your own guide.

Possessions. If you find yourselves lucky enough to live in a comfortable dwelling, and this is subjective, take the time to appreciate it. Look around the world. A fine mud hut overlooking a lagoon can be the symbol of having arrived as much as a condo on top of a skyscraper overlooking the Hudson in New York City. Mud hut or condo, appreciate what you have. Relax, hold your lover in your arms and enjoy what you have built together.

Accomplishments. What have you done with your life so far? How is your significant other holding up in life's endeavors? If you are an auto mechanic or a poet, a businessman or a restauranteur, you have the privilege of knowing you've contributed in your own small way to the machinations of this wonderful world. What's nice is that the more positive things you do in life, the more positive things that will be reflected back onto you. Appreciation is itself an art. Learn how to appreciate well and you will become well appreciated. By yourself, by your partner, by your world. Especially by your partner.