Great Ways To Keep Your Relationship New And Exciting

Does it seem as if your partnership is turning into an old shoe? Always there and always comfortable though it is, how do you add a little polish? It's one thing to be strong and pass the test of time; it's quite another to keep things fresh and exciting. You need to perk up your relationship with a deeper understanding of yourself and your partner. Broadening your communication is the key. You'll both find that freshening up your relationship will have pleasant repercussions from the breakfast nook to the bedroom.

You have chosen to spend your life with your partner, shouldn't your lives be interesting, fun, even zesty? Fulfillment in a relationship is every couple's goal. Here are a couple of things you might give a whirl. None may be your cup of tea, but the inspiration is there. Use your own imagination. The basic premise is finding new ways to enjoy each others company.

Take a stroll. Don't be put off. There's a lot to be said for walking. Add your significant other as your walking companion and there's a whole lot more to be said for it. A walk on a beautiful sunny morning is a great way to jump start the body and the mind. Even a walk on a rainy morning can be fun and surprising. Or, if the stars are peeking through the curtains and the dishes are done, a walk can ease the tensions of the day and make yourselves ready for a good night's sleep. You might develop a pattern or you just might start to take walks whenever the mood strikes.

Walking with your significant other does so many things on so many different physical, mental, and even spiritual levels. You may walk briskly, punctuating the pace by tossing ideas at each other. You may walk slowly and speak in long and measured tones. There are no rules. The thing about walks is that they are something you two can share alone, without any hassles or planning, a time for reconnection. Yes, you built the house, raised the kids, took in family, entertained friends together. Now you need to put those things in perspective. You did those things because it pleased you both. Get away so you can stand back, see what goodness you have built, and figure out ways to improve on those things so that your time together continues to be fresh and exciting. And, your own porch light is always on.

Get out a deck of cards. Don't be put off. There's a lot to be said for card playing. Add your significant other and there's a whole lot more to be said for it. Like a walk, card playing can stimulate the brain. Playing cards is fun in itself. Also, playing cards is not so engrossing that it forestalls thoughtful conversation.

Why do you think there's a plethora of bridge, canasta and poker clubs? Because the games are fun and they make being with others that much more fun. It's a very social activity. The games bring an agility to your mind that could help you both see your mutual challenges in new ways. Or, sometimes watching how your partner plays his or her hand will give you some insights to how their brain operates. You will get to know each other so much better than just sitting together, alone with your separate books or newspapers.

Taking a walk, playing a few hands of cards, these seem so mundane, so unexciting. Well, basically that's true. But really, they're not. They allow you time alone, they allow some time for your physical, mental and spiritual selves to commune again on a very basic level. That is so important to a relationship.

There are other activities you can share with no one else having to be there. A stroll through a museum. Time at an arcade. (Even if you think you're too old for such nonsense.) Go to a fair and win a bear at a bean bag toss. Play a hand of cards. Take a walk. The simplest things are often the best things for young lovers of any age.

Don't Let A Winning Relationship Drift Apart

Something's not quite right. An uneasy sort of dissatisfaction with your partner, with your relationship, is fluttering around the corners of your mind. A sort of malaise clouds your view and a sort of depression accompanies it. This is definitely a problem. If this is allowed to grow, you'll find your body getting out of sorts, too. You need a paradigm shift. A new way to sort through your life and appreciate it for what it is truly worth. A new way that will help you appreciate your significant other, who has helped you get to where you are today.

Every life has its negatives. The power goes out. The street floods. Friends move away. Why focus on the negative? Candles are nice. The world is so fresh smelling after a rain. You make new friends. Your life turns; your relationship with your significant other turns, too. Focus on the good turns. It's not easy.

Sometimes the bad seems so much more overwhelming compared to the good. You do have to put your mind to the good. Sometimes it is easiest to start out with small matters, matters close at hand. Something as silly as the blooming plants that you and your significant other gathered and potted last weekend, perhaps. There's success. They way you both held forth at the bridge game last week. There's success. Or something similar. Good lives are made of lots of small good things. Like children.

Children are lovely little treasures that you and your significant other made. They are growing into fine young folks. Of course, raising them is a bit more complex than planting geraniums. It took working together to make them what they are, teamwork to make them worthy and lovable souls. You and your partner may be drifting apart, but at one point you were a strong team. You depended on each other for so much that is so beneficial, so beautiful. Focus on that dependence that was actually a new way of being free. You always had each others back and that was a new kind of strength.

Just as your children are a testament to your joy in each other, look to the friendships you two have formed together. Whether it's a tight circle or a large group, it's a fantastic support resource you have built together. Bringing in friends that reflect your individual personalities is a way you came to know each other better in surprising new ways. They may be quirky, funny, odd, but friends are joys in your lives. If nothing else, they allow you to have something mutual to roll your eyes about, to chuckle over, even behind their backs.

Even in the best of relationships, things may seem to grow old or tired. And sometimes 'what ifs' and 'how comes' become too much of a focus. If things seem to be getting old, well, they're not. You may feel bored, but you'll be surprised. Look hard and you will see things are changing, and change is good. Don't abandon something just because it's changing. Take pride in the fact that you have shepherded it so well and so long. Your partner really is beautiful or you wouldn't have stayed around this long. Your partner is someone to be proud of, or you wouldn't have stuck around so long.

No long partnership is ever a failure. Again, look at all the small good things around you. It's all made up of some pretty beautiful stuff that's a testament to the worthiness and loveliness of you both. It sounds so trite when it is said aloud, 'Count your blessings.' But, do. From the smallest to the largest, count them. When you wake up in the morning, when you can't fall asleep at night, count them. And, if it suits you, figure out ways to enlarge them or build upon them. Your partner will love helping you change together, because you've been so successful together already. And, changing can be loving, too.

The Simple Secret To A Woman's Heart

Have you ever been somewhere when you see what appears to be the most unlikely couple where maybe a physically undesirable man is with a physically desirable woman who is hanging from his arm and seems to be madly in love with him? Almost immediately the thought may run through your mind, How in the world did he get her? The answer will almost always be a simple one . . . success. This seemingly unattractive man given his physical appearance is in reality a highly desirable catch to a woman . . . because as the odds dictate, he is most likely monetarily successful.

Each passing generation of man, just like animals, passes on a recipe for success. Social Darwinism is alive and well, even in today's culture. A woman has a relatively low ceiling compared to a man when it comes to the amount of children a woman could theoretically rear or produce in a lifetime. Therefore, a woman wants the man who either is the biological father, or the man who will raise the child, to offer something uniquely separate from other men, and that is, she wants her baby or babies to have EVERY opportunity possibly offered to a person in the society. Of course this is a gross generalization of the entire gender, but most mothers number one desire in life is to have great opportunities offered to their children.

This dramatic generalized principle is important because it vastly improves an individual's perception of the world around them. It also allows men to better focus on the specific thing they want most . . . women. Women not only want a man that is successful but they most often will also accept a man who has a great potential for success. Through the lens of this perspective, so much of what men do is to attract a woman. Take for example a man who has little interest in going to college and would do just fine working an eight to five job building homes making enough to live, eat, buy man toys and support his vices. But then consider that this same man has a desire for an attractive woman and she does not consider his job as being successful and will not be attracted to him unless he goes to college. Good chance the man will go to college.

Another example can be illustrated by the true story of John and Jane. John is an all around incredible man who has so much to offer in ways of great looks, personality, morality, etc. John falls madly in love with Jane who is an equally incredible woman and desires little more than to have him marry her. The problem is, as great as she realizes he is, she for some reason cannot commit to marrying him. Well, as we could have guessed given the success principle, John's simple solution was for him to figure out his finances, get a realtor, and purchase a nice piece of real estate or a simple home in the quiet suburbs of Arizona. The home was a mental trigger of success in Jane's mind, and within a month, after two years of this man diligently trying to woo the woman, she suddenly falls madly in love with him and realized she could never live without him.

As a brief summary, women in general are deeply and instinctually attracted to a man's success, realized or potential, more than any other attribute a man may posses. As a basic applicable principle, a man buying real estate will sling shot himself up several levels in his attractiveness. The best thing a man can do is live his life in a way to be able to purchase a home.