How To Get Your Ex Back

That's right, you've just broken up. You feel completely horrible. Perhaps it was your responsibility, your mistake, however it doesn't make you are feeling less down, hopeless, as well as depressed.. How can you get your ex back is all you can think about. These emotions are only natural, I know, I have felt them and had to deal with them myself.

Your first tendency may be to go chasing after your ex straightaway or call your ex on the phone. Again, only natural but you will be letting your emotions dictate what you should do and this is not a good idea.

Sure, I don't know exactly what happend to make you break up with your ex or how painful that must have been for the both of you. However, I can tell you that if you really want to get your ex back, you need to use your head and not your heart.

Rushing into things now, before you have even thought about what went wrong, why it went wrong, as well as if the relationship can still be saved could lead to disaster. Remember this, if you were to get back together right away as well as you would both experience some degree of happiness and immediate gratification at the time, you would only end up splitting up again for good. You must first take time to evaluate the underlying issues that caused the break up in the first place.. 

By acting emotionally and especially if those emotions are driven by anger, the need to blame or any other destructive feeling you may have, can only run the risk of pushing your ex even further away from you with little chance of ever getting back together.

Tough as it is going to be, at least initially, how do you prevent your heart ruling your head? What steps can you take now to prepare the way to get your ex back?

Well, let's first see what you shouldn't do, before going into what you should do.

If as much as possible, you should avoid any kind of contact or communication at all. This is a crucial phase. You have to start focussing on your own life, as well as moving it ahead. You can't cross your arms as well as give acting all depressed, crying over spilt milk.. What has happened is sad, maybe cruel, certainly painful nevertheless it has happened. So, let�s see how we can deal with it positively.

Be in a mode of acceptance

It's going to be close to impossible to get over a personal conflict in our lives, if we're not keen or able to first acknowlegde and accept the fact that it happened. We will have to come to terms with the tragedies in our lives so we can move forward.. So how will this concern your break up? 

Confirm within that you can accept the break up. Let your ex know this however be considerate as well as make sure she can also accept it. You have automatically created a win-win situation as long as you are being totally honest about it. Why win-win? Well, if it turns out that getting back together with your ex is not going to happen, you have already begun the process of moving forward with your life. On the other hand, if there is a chance of getting your ex back, you are giving each other the time as well as space to consider the situation calmly and rationally.

Time as well as Space

You both need time to think and consider the importance or otherwise of the relationship. I don�t mean dwelling on the problems or the ache that has been caused as a result. By giving each other space, you both may realize how much in love you still are as well as how much you mean to each other. If you can feel this way without the negativity getting in the way, you would understand it was a big blunder to let each other go and you will be in a better position to talk calmly as well as lovingly.
If the relationship is still important to your ex, they may also begin to realize the mistake that was made, and actually make motions or give signals that they too wish to get their ex back.


Rational Planning

Now, and only now, are you ready to think about how you get your ex back. You can now begin to initiate some contact as well as start a heartfelt conversation. The timing, as well as location are part of the process of taking steps to reunion. Put your own ego aside and become more caring, interested in your ex's wishes and desires. That will show your goodwill and your level of commitment.

This is the first phase in your journey to recovering your mutual passion.