Don't Let A Winning Relationship Drift Apart

Something's not quite right. An uneasy sort of dissatisfaction with your partner, with your relationship, is fluttering around the corners of your mind. A sort of malaise clouds your view and a sort of depression accompanies it. This is definitely a problem. If this is allowed to grow, you'll find your body getting out of sorts, too. You need a paradigm shift. A new way to sort through your life and appreciate it for what it is truly worth. A new way that will help you appreciate your significant other, who has helped you get to where you are today.

Every life has its negatives. The power goes out. The street floods. Friends move away. Why focus on the negative? Candles are nice. The world is so fresh smelling after a rain. You make new friends. Your life turns; your relationship with your significant other turns, too. Focus on the good turns. It's not easy.

Sometimes the bad seems so much more overwhelming compared to the good. You do have to put your mind to the good. Sometimes it is easiest to start out with small matters, matters close at hand. Something as silly as the blooming plants that you and your significant other gathered and potted last weekend, perhaps. There's success. They way you both held forth at the bridge game last week. There's success. Or something similar. Good lives are made of lots of small good things. Like children.

Children are lovely little treasures that you and your significant other made. They are growing into fine young folks. Of course, raising them is a bit more complex than planting geraniums. It took working together to make them what they are, teamwork to make them worthy and lovable souls. You and your partner may be drifting apart, but at one point you were a strong team. You depended on each other for so much that is so beneficial, so beautiful. Focus on that dependence that was actually a new way of being free. You always had each others back and that was a new kind of strength.

Just as your children are a testament to your joy in each other, look to the friendships you two have formed together. Whether it's a tight circle or a large group, it's a fantastic support resource you have built together. Bringing in friends that reflect your individual personalities is a way you came to know each other better in surprising new ways. They may be quirky, funny, odd, but friends are joys in your lives. If nothing else, they allow you to have something mutual to roll your eyes about, to chuckle over, even behind their backs.

Even in the best of relationships, things may seem to grow old or tired. And sometimes 'what ifs' and 'how comes' become too much of a focus. If things seem to be getting old, well, they're not. You may feel bored, but you'll be surprised. Look hard and you will see things are changing, and change is good. Don't abandon something just because it's changing. Take pride in the fact that you have shepherded it so well and so long. Your partner really is beautiful or you wouldn't have stayed around this long. Your partner is someone to be proud of, or you wouldn't have stuck around so long.

No long partnership is ever a failure. Again, look at all the small good things around you. It's all made up of some pretty beautiful stuff that's a testament to the worthiness and loveliness of you both. It sounds so trite when it is said aloud, 'Count your blessings.' But, do. From the smallest to the largest, count them. When you wake up in the morning, when you can't fall asleep at night, count them. And, if it suits you, figure out ways to enlarge them or build upon them. Your partner will love helping you change together, because you've been so successful together already. And, changing can be loving, too.

Share The Path With Your Loved Ones

Do you and your significant other need a simple romantic way to bring yourselves closer? Are you not getting enough quality time together? Is it just too hard to make that time? Well, you've both got careers, you've got your families, you've got all the other little details of hectic lives that take so much time. It's hard keeping the perspective, the view that your partner needs time, too.

You each know that your success in the world isn't handed to you. You must have a plan, you must have a strategy. Short-term goals, long-term goals, both of these need a stick-to-it attitude. But, what's success without the success of your intimate relationship? As with your other 'must-do's', you've got to make space for the significant other in your life. A business client is no more important that your intimate client. A tee time for a business partner is not more important than a lunch with your life partner.

'Sharing' is the operative word when considering time together. It doesn't mean being in a place that just allows you time 'with' each other. It means sharing time together in a place where you can be with each other. An example of a place that doesn't allow you to be with each other is a movie theater.

How can a trip to the movie theater be a good place or a good way to be with each other? Think about it. Sure, you're together. But, you can't talk without getting shushed. You can't see each other. If the movie is any good, you're mind is on a subject far afield of anything having to do with your lives. So, you're basically sitting in the dark ignoring each other. That's not spending time together.

Rather than focusing on the troubles or treasures of the silver screen, you want to focus on each other. The almost perfect way to do this is excuse yourselves from whoever is sharing space with you, friends family or pets, and go for a walk. It can be a long walk, or a short walk. Let what you need from each other dictate the time you spend. You can hold hands, you can look at each other while you speak, the air is fresh, the walk itself gets the blood flowing. It's the perfect venue for togetherness.

With a walk, where you're going doesn't matter. How long you're gone doesn't matter. It focuses on the two of you and the things you need or want to talk about. Sometimes, walks can be quiet. And maybe that's important, for awhile. But, since you two obviously care about each other, talk will ensue.

Walks are easy to schedule, too. You needn't be shy about saying, "Let's go for a walk." By walking together, you're alone, whether it's a busy mall or a quiet street. You're really together. You can discuss important things, things that matter, issues that need resolution. A walk is a great way to clear the air. You're both in a relaxed place, a neutral place. There is no need for defense building, no need to fear discussing sensitive subjects.

The next time you and your significant other find yourselves in a stuffy room, and the moon is peeking through the crack in the curtains, grab his or hand and go for a walk. It's free. You don't have to be gone for a long time. In fact, you might want to set up a walk time each day. A time for the two of you alone, maybe just before or after dinner. Your bodies, your minds, and your relationship will thank you.

A Sweet Gift for Her

Sweets, they talk to her and get her in just the right mood. Sweets say "I really love you", and the intimacy ball will get rolling and help to do just that. An intimacy ball rolling will give more than candy and chocolate her way, it will spark your evening. It will make her feel sensual and important. Tell her you love her with something she will eat up, literally, she'll love the thought you put into this. We all have a favorite sweet, a candy we like the best, find out what hers is, if you do not know this already. And find out why this is the one she prefers. Now get a little stuffy toy and card to make the package complete and send it to her.

Sending it in the mail to her will absolutely surprise her and she will be flattered. Try and be there when the mail comes and watch as she takes the mail in, sees the package, and is in total disbelief, but happy. Because once she gets past the realization that you actually sent her something in the mail, she will be so thrilled. This is something she will remember for a lifetime, the creativeness and thoughtfulness that you put into sending her this little "love" package.

We all cherish these little special moments, they help to intensify our love and emotions. Nothing tells your partner that you love them more than surprising them every now and then. Coming up with something a little extra special to let them know you care. You will both benefit from the experience.

If you don't want to send chocolates or candies, you can send her other items that will satisfy the sweet tooth. Flavorful oil that are aromatic are a great item to send. There are a few that are sure to please, like Shunga's Aphrodisiac Oil or Karma Sutra's Oil of Love. They offer sweet and spicy oils and are a real romantic gift to share between the two of you and really help to heat up your evening.

Just apply these vibrantly colored oils to your partners body, (which are water based so you do not have to worry about stain, they wash out of any material) and erotically remove it from the curves and crevices on her body. Lick, kiss, and amaze them while giving them a sensual experience. This helps increase your romance and bring you closer as one. A great foreplay experience you won't want to pass up, making your sexual arousal both sensual and exciting.

Kama Sutra also has a Earthly Delights romance gift set which will absolutely drive her crazy with desire, Honey Dust. This is a product which will both flavorfully and aromatically please both you and your partner. It has an amazing honeysuckle smell and flavor to it. It is light, sweet and wonderful. And if you think that sounds good, the application of it is intense. You can use the feather duster, which is included, to dip the end in the Honey Dust and let your mind go with the flow and dust it over your lovers body to revel in its effects.

Amazing too, the powder leaves a smooth feel to the skin when touched, making the experience both arousing and erotic for both of you. The Honey Dust powder is heavenly. So next time you're in the market to surprise and delight your partner, sweeten her up with a little Honey Dust. The candy and chocolates will never disappoint her, but the Kama Sutra products will certainly delight her.